First Lady Michelle Obama shares her tips on style in the December issue of Glamour, available Nov. 10.

“I’ve tried to be at peace with the choices that I make first, and then be open to everyone else’s reflection,” she tells Glamour’s columnist Katie Couric. “I have always tried to put my kids first, and then … put myself a really close second, as opposed to fifth or seventh. One thing that I’ve learned from male role models is that they don’t hesitate to invest in themselves.” Obama — who styled herself for the shoot — was photographed by Matthias Vriens-McGrath for one of five Glamour Women of the Year covers.